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A personal story went viral on social media after a stranger told a woman at a restaurant that “proper manners require eating rice balanced on the back of your fork.” On 5ch, many commenters argued this eating style is actually a myth that spread during Japan’s Showa era and isn’t standard practice in the West at all — while others pointed to real regional differences, noting that “the British style puts food on the back of the fork, while the American style uses the front.” The discussion expanded into other “correct way to eat” debates, like whether to twirl pasta on a fork or the quirks of eating fried rice with a Chinese soup spoon, with opinions split down the middle.
Is Balancing Rice on the Back of Your Fork Proper Manners? A Stranger’s Comment at a Restaurant Sparks Debate Over Table Manners — “I Eat That Way Too” vs. “Eat However You Like” | Maidona News
Oct 5, 2026 (Mon) — Yuko Minakami
A personal account of being corrected on table manners by a stranger at a restaurant has drawn major attention on social media.
Source: maidonanews.jp / Original article here
What people said
nobody does it now, right?
That way of eating is awkward as hell, and nobody does it in other countries either, you idiot.
Right?
I think it's just a nasty piece of misinformation.
There are still plenty of older people out there who mistakenly believe this is the correct manner.
With all the video sites out there,
I've never once seen footage of people abroad actually eating that way —
not even at the kind of upscale restaurant the article's talking about.
It's seriously just a bogus Showa-era urban legend.
If this isn't just a lazy rehash article, that lady's a victim too.
There really was a time, way back when, that this was taught as proper manners —
the Showa era.
Like others are saying,
it's probably the same deal as the pasta-twirling thing.
Nobody in actual Italy does that either —
they just scoop it up with the fork and eat it as is.
That said, slurping too loudly is a no-go,
so if a noodle's too long, you bite it off and let it drop.
Only tourists bite their noodles off in Italy.
The reason short noodle bits are left over at the end is BECAUSE people bite them off.
I lived in America, and everyone twirled their pasta, though?
Is there some trick to it?
Some restaurants give you a ramen spoon instead of a proper fried-rice spoon, you know.
Eating fried rice with a Chinese soup spoon is a Japan-only thing to begin with lol
Probably because that's just the orientation you're already holding it in when eating meat.
I actually tried it, and the back is easier to eat off of.
This is about public manners.
Rather than slurping loudly and making an unpleasant noise,
biting it off between your lower lip and upper teeth and letting it drop
is the normal thing to do.
Only little kids use a spoon — plenty of adults twirl it normally too.
Biting it off basically never happens.
Just because something's easier to eat doesn't mean it's established as a manner.
Re: #255
Same goes for you.
Maybe think about what "manners" actually means lol
That's just about ease of eating, isn't it?
Was it ever actually a manner?
Was just scooping it up without twirling ever called a violation?
It's a manner when you're out in public.
At home I eat it without twirling, though.
No it isn't —
there's nothing wrong with eating it without twirling.
Wait… now that I think about it, where did I even learn that?
That itself is misinformation that spread during the Showa era.
I was taught in elementary school that it was the correct manner.
Looking back now, it was absolute nonsense.
It's about as big a lie as the one claiming you're supposed to drink all the water in a finger bowl right away.
What you eat with steak is mashed potatoes.
At home I use Idahoan instant mashed potatoes, though.
Americans: "Rice is a vegetable. Of course you eat it as a side dish."
But I'm eating the steak just so I can eat the rice with it.
putting it on the front of the fork is the American style.
In a formal setting, going with the back is the safe choice, so this comment wasn't entirely off the mark.
France uses the front too.
Both America and Britain just eat it with a spoon, or a Chinese soup spoon.
And serving rice with chopsticks stuck straight up in it — that's the Chinese style.
Background and Key Points of the Debate
The practice of “piling rice on the back of the fork” is said to have been widely taught in Japanese school education and etiquette books during the Showa era, but actual Western dining customs vary considerably by region. Within the thread, commenters themselves pointed out that “the British style uses the back, the American style uses the front” and “France uses the front too,” showing there’s no single, unified “overseas manner.” The same goes for whether or not to twirl pasta — tourist-facing performances and locals’ everyday eating habits are easily confused on this point. What readers can easily get wrong is assuming “the manners I was taught growing up” equal a universally correct standard, when customs actually vary by country, region, and the formality of the setting. The disagreement in the thread largely stemmed from differing firsthand accounts of “what I personally saw abroad.”
*This article is compiled from excerpts and a summary of the 5ch (News Flash+) thread “Is Putting Rice on the Back of the Fork Proper Manners? A Stranger’s Comment to a Woman at a Restaurant Sparks Mixed Reactions.”
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