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The story
A thread on 5channel’s “Nanimo Jikkyo G” board features a poster torn between two women: one he loves but isn’t physically attracted to, and one he finds attractive but hasn’t built a relationship with yet. The relatable dilemma of choosing a spouse when romantic feelings and physical preference don’t line up drew a flood of responses, with opinions clashing head-on between “if you truly love someone, looks shouldn’t matter” and “you can’t ignore appearance, given genetics and the regret you might feel later over your kids’ looks.”
What people said
What do you guys think?
She's ugly, right?
But I love her
Even though her breath stinks
Bad breath AND ugly — that's gotta be a troll post
Cut it out!!
Yeah, exactly
Can't even kiss her without worrying
Eventually you'll hit a difference in values or something
And with an ugly wife on top of that, cheating's basically unavoidable
Having an ugly kid would be way too rough
Exactly
Looks are hereditary after all
If you don't, don't — you'll regret it
I do love her
but she's kind of an oddball
That's part of what makes her interesting, but I feel like it'd wear on me after years together
If she's cute you can forgive anything, and it'll motivate you at work too
They say you get tired of a pretty face in three days
Women are all more or less impossible to reason with, to some degree
If you get tired of a pretty girl that fast, an ugly one's gonna drive you insane
Is that so?
Not sure about that
Never been a parent
Ugly, bad personality, so-so body
VS
Cute, great personality, sexy
What exactly are you torn about again?
I do actually love the ugly one
With the pretty one, I'd still have to build the relationship from scratch
Apparently she's been through a lot of harassment over it and says she hates men
Ugly by my standards, and everyone around her agrees too
Yeah, I am an oddball, I'll admit
But I'd like to think my judgment on looks is normal
If it's hereditary, does that mean you can't love the kid?
The kid's gonna have a hard life
Kids who go through hardship grow up kinder, though
I don't think that's true
Being with an ugly girl is easy
We share the same values, the ugly one and me
I feel like I'll never find anyone who clicks with me like that again
The ugly girl you're into has probably had her inner charm polished precisely because she's been through hardship, right?
Her inner self is actually terrible.
We just happen to like the same stuff
Huh? Then there's no reason to pick the ugly one
What is this guy even saying
It's a niche hobby
Someone I can actually talk to about it with is rare and precious
Also, technically, she's my first love
Maybe I should give up on a girl I fell for back when I couldn't even tell right from wrong yet?
Background and Key Points of This Discussion
This kind of “looks vs. personality” dilemma over choosing a spouse is a recurring staple on the Nanimo Jikkyo G board, and it’s worth remembering that the poster’s own assessment of his girlfriend’s looks is entirely subjective — the majority opinion in the thread doesn’t necessarily reflect mainstream values. The thread split mainly along two lines: first, a difference in romantic philosophy — whether genuine affection makes appearance a non-issue, or whether a mismatch in physical taste inevitably leads to a long-term clash of values and a breakdown of the relationship; second, whether it’s valid to choose a spouse based on the premise that a child’s looks are “hereditary.” That second point isn’t backed by any scientific argument — readers should note it’s purely anecdotal, impressionistic reasoning from an anonymous message board. The poster also revealed details about his girlfriend’s inner character, calling her an “oddball” who “hates men,” suggesting the real core of his dilemma isn’t just appearance, but compatibility in the relationship itself.
*This article is compiled and summarized from the 5channel (Nanimo Jikkyo G) thread “Should I Marry a Girl I Love Even Though She’s Ugly?.”
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