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“Don’t ask for kindness — that’s just an excuse cowards make.” A line from Kaientai’s “Okuru Kotoba” (A Word to Send You Off), written by Tetsuya Takeda, sparked a debate over its true meaning on the Japanese forum 5ch. It started with a post from someone who said an older passenger played them the song and, hearing the lyrics properly for the first time, they were moved to tears. From there, interpretations piled up — “Isn’t this a dig at an ex?”, “Doesn’t it mean that only wanting kindness from others is what makes you a coward?” — and the thread caught fire. An argument broke out partway through over how to read the lyrics, but by the end someone offered a reframing — “it’s a song about choosing to love rather than be loved” — that completely flipped the mood of the thread.
What people said
Found out what the lyrics actually meant for the first time…
and cried.
・I wish everyone in the world were kind.
・I want my kid to grow up to be a kind person.
Those are just things that popped into my head — stuff I genuinely think in real life — but… does that make them a "coward's excuse" too?
Too sad to handle.
Shocked that it's such a sad song.
Re: #9
No, it's the person who wrote lyrics like this, and people like you, who are the real cowards.
You're just justifying yourselves by saying "being unkind is the default for humans."
Cowards.
The lyrics themselves don't even mean that.
Yeah, his mom was a tough one.
I see… never would've guessed that from listening to the song lol. A breakup song. A love song. Is that really what the lyrics are… if so…
Tetsuya Takeda is seriously Re: #12 lol
Takako Okamura's "Yume wo Akiramenaide" (Don't Give Up on Your Dreams)
Two songs everyone thinks are anthems of encouragement… that are actually breakup songs
You're misreading the meaning in the first place.
A sad world, huh.
I see… these might be seriously messed-up lyrics.
Huh 😳 I'll listen to the whole thing properly later!
I'm right here, in your pocket,
waiting so we can travel together,
waiting until you notice me.
What was it you dreamed of?
Let's go there together now.
It's a world so far away, yet so close.
A sky stretches out inside your pocket too,
clouds drift by inside your pocket too.
There's a world this wonderful,
a world where you and I can travel together.
It's just that sometimes they happen to be more right than the rest of society.
Sure, maybe the person being bullied has some small part in it, but that's never a reason it's okay to bully them.
And honestly, casually mocking or sneering at things you don't even understand is just rotten.
If you said something like "haha, that guy doesn't even have hands" about someone with a limb difference, society would hate you for it — so I genuinely don't understand why bullying gets a pass.
You put it so clearly…
You said everything I wanted to say, on my behalf, and it nearly made me cry.
Re: #56, you're a savior too.
(Loving, rather than being loved)
A way of living and a stance that finds more value in actively, deliberately loving someone than in passively being on the receiving end of love.
Whoa——————!!!!!
I guess you could read these lyrics that way too…
So it's like: write it in a deliberately harsh way on the surface, but underneath the underneath the underneath, that's really what it means?
That kind of lyrics—!!!————————————!!!
Huh, that makes sense! I feel genuinely relieved now.
Ohh, so that's the way he was trying to say it.
Then it's a beautiful song after all!
Sorry, Tetsuya Takeda-san, you weren't someone spreading sadness after all.
It was buried so deep under the underneath of the underneath that I couldn't get it…
It's the cowards, the ones who can't be kind to others,
who are always the ones demanding kindness from others
…then even I might have understood what wonderful thing Takeda-san was trying to say, if the lyrics had been something like that.
Seriously, Re: #49, you're a savior.
Background and Key Points of the Debate
Kaientai’s “Okuru Kotoba” (A Word to Send You Off) was released in 1979, with lyrics written by Tetsuya Takeda. It’s best known as a graduation-ceremony staple with an “encouraging anthem” image, but it’s not widely known that, taken as a whole, the lyrics are actually about a breakup. The point the thread split over was how to read the line “Don’t ask for kindness — that’s just an excuse cowards make”: taken literally, is it a criticism meaning “the person who wants kindness is the real coward,” or does it mean the opposite — “the coward is the one who only wants kindness but never gives it”? The reading that emerged later in the thread — “it’s a song conveying the value of choosing to love rather than be loved” — shifted the whole mood, but it’s worth noting this was just one participant’s guess, not an explanation from Takeda himself. The lyrics’ official intended meaning has never been published, so which interpretation is actually “correct” remains genuinely unknown.
*This article is compiled as an excerpt and summary from the 5ch (Hello! Project board) thread “Tetsuya Takeda (77), “Don’t ask for kindness — that’s just an excuse cowards make”.”
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