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A thread appeared on 5ch’s Nanjyo (“Live Newsflash”) board started by a man posting, “My girlfriend dumped me and I’m so sad 😭.” Reading closely, though, it turns out the breakup actually happened a year ago, and the poster still can’t get over her. Commenters offered the standard advice that “you’ll forget her once you get a new girlfriend,” but the poster kept insisting he “can’t move on to a new relationship because he can’t forget his ex.” The thread grew into a wider debate over whether men and women recover from breakups differently.
What people said
What is this?
Thing is, I can't date someone else because I can't forget my ex…
Same here.
Also apparently if you don't land a new girlfriend, you'll carry this to your grave.
Kinda intrigued, not gonna lie.
Just let your libido take the wheel and start dating someone — for now.
The hassle outweighs it for me.
It's just your memories making her feel special.
She was drop-dead gorgeous, though 😡
I actually watched the moment my ex got dumped by her own ex 🤣
She was a total wreck — hilarious.
Honestly, I'm just a pathetic college student with no part-time job and no club activities ("non-baito non-circle") 😅
She used to do these ridiculously hot "good morning" video calls with me (おはD) 🥺
Guys like you are exactly the type who end up in stalking incidents.
If I could move on, I wouldn't have made this thread 😡
Is she literally the only ex you've ever had?
Yeah… ( ; ; )
Women just breeze on to the next guy.
That's way too unfair.
It's been a year and I'm still a wreck.
With relationships you need the mindset of "oh, the restaurant I wanted is closed, guess I'll go somewhere else" — otherwise you'll never cope.
That's pretty cool, honestly.
Did she cheat on you?
Is it because I'm still a student?
Zero connections to women whatsoever — now THAT's a real problem.
and starts making serious money,
there's an actual shot you two could get back together.
Though apparently he's a pathetic college student with no job or club activities.
Guess that makes me the winner.
Pretty much, yeah.
Out of nowhere, you suddenly regret the choices you made.
The pain of knowing it's never coming back.
Background and Talking Points
First-person confession threads that open with “I did such-and-such” are a familiar format on Nanjyo-style boards, and it’s worth noting there’s no way to verify whether the poster is describing a genuine personal experience. This thread, too, opens simply with “my girlfriend dumped me,” but following the replies reveals that a full year had actually passed since the breakup. Several comments echo the idea that “men cling to lingering feelings while women move on quickly” — a popular claim online, though not one backed by any actual statistics. It’s also typical of this kind of thread that practical advice like “just chase your libido and move on” or “there are plenty of replacements out there” never quite lines up with the poster’s emotional pushback — that mismatch itself, more than any real empathy, is what makes the exchange worth reading.
*This article is compiled and summarized from the 5ch (Nanjyo/Live Newsflash board) thread “‘My girlfriend dumped me and it hurts 😭’ → One year later.”
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