A post about a man earning ¥15 million a year being told by his fiancée that he’ll be put on a ¥50,000-a-month allowance after marriage has become a hot topic on 5ch. Some in the thread sided with the fiancée — “If you’re paying off an ¥80 million mortgage, of course it’s ¥50,000 a month, the wife’s right” and “If she’s a full-time housewife doing all the housework, an extra ¥50,000 is cheap” — while many others pushed back against the idea of being controlled at all, arguing “He’ll end up paying the mortgage himself after marriage anyway” and “It’s not about the amount — being completely controlled is the issue, so it wouldn’t matter if it were ¥80,000 or ¥100,000.” Opinions were split right down the middle.
What people said
2AnonymousOct 31, 2026 08:41
His financial burden isn't changing — if anything it's going down — so why not just call off the engagement?
4AnonymousOct 31, 2026 08:44
Here we go with another made-up story.
32AnonymousOct 31, 2026 09:29
Re: #4
That's just how it is once you're married.
5AnonymousOct 31, 2026 08:45
Feels like typical bait written just to get people bashing women. But enough people keep falling for it, so this kind of post never goes away.
6AnonymousOct 31, 2026 08:45
Isn't it just normal to be managed by your partner once you're married?
7AnonymousOct 31, 2026 08:53
I want to call this fake ('usomatsu' — forum slang for an obviously made-up sob story), but it's probably true ('honmatsu'), which is what makes it depressing.
8AnonymousOct 31, 2026 08:54
Just pay the cancellation fee. You can't spend your whole life feeling resentful.
9AnonymousOct 31, 2026 08:56
Sounds like she's already pulling a cuckoo's-egg move — carrying some other guy's baby and passing it off as his.
10AnonymousOct 31, 2026 09:00
But back in the Showa era this would've been totally normal. These days it does seem kind of rough on him though.
49AnonymousOct 31, 2026 09:54
Re: #10
Classic Showa/early-Heisei dad move — working weekends and endless overtime till you're exhausted, no time for hobbies, and just handing over all the money management too.
16AnonymousOct 31, 2026 09:04
Honestly, maybe he's just not cut out for marriage in the first place.
17AnonymousOct 31, 2026 09:07
If you're paying off an ¥80 million mortgage, of course it's ¥50,000 a month — the wife's right.
24AnonymousOct 31, 2026 09:19
No matter how you look at it, her financial literacy doesn't seem all that great.
25AnonymousOct 31, 2026 09:19
It's not about the amount — the issue is being completely controlled, so it wouldn't matter if it were ¥80,000 or ¥100,000.
26AnonymousOct 31, 2026 09:21
If you're pulling in ¥15 million a year, at least manage the household finances yourself. Basically she's saying 'here's your monthly amount, make it work.'
27AnonymousOct 31, 2026 09:21
Gritting our teeth, putting up with the company's unreasonable demands, and supporting our wife and kids — that's our job. Feels like that's the only way we'll ever get back the prosperity we used to have.
28AnonymousOct 31, 2026 09:22
Just say no. If that leads to calling off the engagement, that's on her, so the penalty fee should be smaller too. The house is newly built anyway — either live in it or sell it.
29AnonymousOct 31, 2026 09:23
This is exactly why I keep saying don't get married.
30AnonymousOct 31, 2026 09:27
He's already treating his wife and her parents like the enemy at this stage — doesn't bode well. Sounds like a life of servitude.
31AnonymousOct 31, 2026 09:27
Living under an allowance system actually taught me to be frugal. Thanks to that, it's coming in handy now that my income has dropped. Don't assume that salary will last forever.
33AnonymousOct 31, 2026 09:29
Once that kind of distrust sets in, it never really goes away. Better to just break up now.
37AnonymousOct 31, 2026 09:31
Re: #1
There's no way a guy like this actually earns ¥15 million a year. This is made up.
38AnonymousOct 31, 2026 09:33
Re: #37
Sounds like you assume anyone with money must be competent.
39AnonymousOct 31, 2026 09:34
Re: #37
Are big earners like Naoki Yamazaki or Kawabe your idea of the ideal man?
57AnonymousOct 31, 2026 10:03
Working and working and working, paying hefty taxes, being able to live a decent life — that's all thanks to the wife who held down the home front.
59AnonymousOct 31, 2026 10:08
Re: #57
Guys who say stuff like this probably never stop to think that wives differ in ability too.
Background and Key Points of This Debate
In Japanese households, the “allowance system” — where one spouse manages the entire household budget and hands a fixed amount to the other — has long been a common way of handling family finances, and plenty of couples use it regardless of how high their income is. What split opinion in the thread wasn’t the system itself, but questions of power — namely, who controls the household finances — and how to weigh non-monetary contributions like housework and childcare. The debate pitted those who considered a ¥50,000 allowance reasonable (assuming a full-time homemaker) against those who objected to being controlled at all, regardless of amount. It’s worth noting that the original post doesn’t specify details such as who’s actually paying the mortgage or the income gap between the two, so the thread’s reactions are largely speculation based on secondhand information.
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