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On October 8, GACKT posted on X about “the effort to avoid being disliked.” He wrote that “even as times change, a lot of people are still trapped by this way of thinking and suffering because of it — especially now, with social media having accelerated it,” questioning people who are excessively afraid of being disliked. On the 5ch “Geisoku Sokuho+” thread, opinions split between those agreeing — “not making enemies is easier in the long run,” “you can just keep work relationships strictly business” — and those pushing back, arguing that “this logic only works for someone with power and name recognition; it doesn’t apply to an ordinary office worker.” Partway through, the discussion broadened to touch on the bestseller that preaches a similar idea, “The Courage to Be Disliked” (a book explaining Adlerian psychology).
Thu, Oct 8, 11:15 AM
Musician GACKT updated his X account on the 8th, offering advice to people who behave in ways meant to avoid being disliked.
GACKT posted: “[‘The effort to avoid being disliked’] This has always been a thing, but even as times change, there are a lot of people still trapped by this way of thinking and suffering over it. It’s especially accelerated now that social media has become mainstream. The world is full of people hung up on something this trivial.”
Source: news.yahoo.co.jp / Original article here
What people said
So if you don't care about being disliked, like GACKT, then it's not a problem?
America's still stuck on Pearl Harbor, huh…
Plenty of people forget favors, though.
He's probably said the exact opposite at some point in the past.
That kind of naive thinking only flies when you're a junior nobody.
but harassing someone to deliberately make them hate you is a different thing.
Saying things you didn't need to say and getting hated for it isn't "the courage to be disliked."
Ordinary people can't survive if they're disliked.
This one doesn't matter, so treat them like they don't matter; this one's necessary, so actually engage with them.
Just divide people up that way.
The other person probably thinks you don't matter either.
A book co-authored by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga explaining Alfred Adler's "Adlerian psychology"
Published by Diamond Inc. on December 13, 2013.
Ranked No. 2 on the annual business-book charts in 2014, then No. 1 in 2015
Also became the year's No. 1 bestseller in South Korea in 2015
As of spring 2025, worldwide sales have topped 13.5 million copies
In 2017, a TV drama based on the book aired on Fuji TV
Human nature's roots are the same the world over, huh. Even something like Dazai ends up a bestseller. (Osamu Dazai: Japanese novelist known for dark, angst-ridden works like "No Longer Human")
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What matters is living your own life.
There's no way to control whether other people end up liking or disliking you.
It's always the people who screwed up badly and got disliked for it who talk about "the courage to be disliked."
Honestly, I can't tell what he's trying to say.
This world belongs to you.
What's wrong with being selfish?
He's saying: live selfishly.
Background and Key Points of the Discussion
The book referenced in the thread, “The Courage to Be Disliked,” is a guide co-authored by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga, published by Diamond Inc. in 2013. It’s known for spreading the ideas of Adlerian psychology widely — it ranked high on business-book charts in 2014-2015, sold well in South Korea, and was even adapted into a TV drama on Fuji TV in 2017. GACKT himself faced major criticism in 2022 over his involvement with the cryptocurrency “GACKTCoin,” and the thread brought that up, splitting opinion over whether his own history of relationship friction makes his argument more convincing or less. Another point of debate was that “it’s fine to be disliked” only holds up depending on your position — commenters noted that this logic works for celebrities and people in power, but is hard to apply to an ordinary office worker, for whom cutting ties at work or in the community causes real damage. Abusive language and discriminatory remarks from the thread have been excluded from this article.
*This article is excerpted and summarized from the 5ch (Geisoku Sokuho+) thread “GACKT tells people who act to avoid being disliked, “They’re basically strangers anyway, right?” — passionately makes the case for “the courage to be disliked”.”
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