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According to a survey featured by Forbes Japan, marriage has a far bigger impact on life expectancy for men than for women. Married men tend to live longer, healthier lives, but the same benefit is hard to find for women. On 5ch, a thread debated the reasons behind this gap: some pointed to lifestyle and “someone’s watching over you” effects — “if you live with someone, they’ll notice quickly if you collapse,” “single men have no one to rein them in, so their drinking and diet go downhill” — while others argued it’s really an economic effect (“higher-earning men are just more likely to get married”), and still others pushed back, saying “if you can manage yourself, being single shouldn’t matter.” The thread never settled on a single, simple explanation for marriage’s benefits.
Forbes Japan — 2026.09.08
A certain set of statistics has recently caused a lot of surprise, confusion, and even anger online. It found that when it comes to life expectancy, men benefit far more from marriage than women do. In other words, men can live longer, healthier lives with a spouse’s support, but women don’t seem to get the same boost to their lifespan or quality of life.
That said, the idea that husbands are draining life out of their wives and tacking it onto their own isn’t backed up by research on the subject. Even so, there does seem to be a real difference in how being married or not shapes men’s and women’s lives.
Source: forbesjapan.com / Read the original article here
What people said
Also, if you have kids, they'll keep you on life support.
Whether that's good or bad is another question.
That's a huge benefit for society too — if you're alone, you end up being a burden on neighbors, relatives, the government, your landlord, everyone.
Depends on the person, I guess. Like in the rakugo story "Onaoshi" (about a down-and-out man rebuilding his life through remarriage) — if you're lonely, marriage might not be a bad option. Though if there's no one around, there's not much you can do about it.
I don't think pricier food is necessarily healthier though.
That's part of it, but also people suffer less when they're living for someone else.
so my impression is that marriage sounds like a lot of trouble.
Re: #57
Funny how the married guys around single men always seem to be miserable and pathetic, lol
— but a calculated marriage seems more likely to end in misery.
Aren't pretty much all the couples who meet through matchmaking activities or dating apps these days calculating?
Especially the women.
I wonder if those couples end up divorcing once the kids leave the nest.
Someone like that will never show up, so just settle for whoever's decent enough.
If you can take care of yourself properly, a single man's lifespan shouldn't be any different.
It's the guys who can't even cook a proper meal who wreck their health and die.
True enough.
If a single guy actually cooks properly, his healthy-life-expectancy might be fine too.
But once his healthy years run out, being single until death probably gets rough in all sorts of ways — that's probably why singles don't outlive married people after that point.
Just remember that.
Wait, so what, you're supposed to double-suicide once you're old?
Single people just drop dead quickly.
It's married people who awkwardly live long and suffer.
I don't know if it's a single guy or someone caring for a senile old woman, but I often see men around 80 with a backpack on,
out shopping at the supermarket.
If you can keep living a normal life like that, it doesn't matter whether you're single or married.
If you're eating what you love, that's a happy life.
Can't you eat what you like once you're married?
That's not really true, is it?
If you have surgery and end up living longer, there tend to be all sorts of dietary restrictions too.
My dad had two-thirds of his stomach removed and can't eat what he likes anymore.
I think it's half-true that marriage stops you from eating what you like.
Even when picking a restaurant, you often end up prioritizing your wife's preferences.
I'm not picky, so it doesn't bother me.
And I do feel like it's broadened the range of things I like and eat.
When I was on my own, I just avoided things and never chose them.
Once you hit 50, married or single, there's not much left to do, is there?
It'll probably just be work.
My dad died at 60, and I think it must have been hard for him to accept.
He probably wanted some time to relax after retiring.
He seemed to want to play with his grandkids, but he didn't even make it that far.
Same here — my dad passed before his grandchild was born, so I get it.
Still, that's just fate, I guess.
There are a few people like that at my workplace.
I have no way of knowing how they felt about their own lives, but bluntly put, I just want to fully collect the pension I paid into and enjoy it.
It's the same either way once one spouse passes first.
You can't exactly tie your kids down with caregiving duties.
What everyone needs, married or not, is decent social connections and building up assets so you don't become a burden.
Keep saying stuff like that and people will call it sour grapes, lol
I mean, being called that again doesn't feel great, but…
wouldn't even someone with kids think about that stuff normally?
Being a burden on your wife and kids is just the worst.
Without anyone to stop them, men drink like crazy.
Next up is unhealthy food — ramen, fried stuff, meat.
Men left on their own tend to be self-destructive, or rather, their urges don't stop, so they just do whatever they want.
Maybe that's a valid way to live too.
I'm married, but on a day off like today I've been drinking at home since 11am.
My snack is a 1kg bag of Aogappa from Gyomu Super (a discount supermarket chain).
Yeah, I'm not living long.
I look like I'm stuck at 25.
No sun exposure, exercise regularly, crush stress immediately,
no ramen or snacks — I've kept this up since I was 16.
My checkups always come back A, and my health age reads as 29.
For most people, not eating ramen or snacks would be stressful in itself.
What actually makes you happy? What do you enjoy doing?
Background and talking points
Surveys linking marriage and life expectancy like this one have been reported repeatedly across various countries, but it’s worth noting that most are observational studies — they don’t prove that marriage itself causally extends life. What’s likely happening instead is a selection effect: men who are already healthy and financially stable tend to be the ones who get married in the first place (healthier people are more likely to remain in the marriage market). Some in the thread raised the income angle, but this selection-bias perspective barely came up. It’s also easy to overlook that the original article itself rejects the folk theory that “wives are draining their husbands’ lifespan.” The more mundane — and probably more accurate — conclusion is that lifestyle habits and self-care, not marital status itself, are what really drive lifespan differences.
※This article is excerpted and summarized from the 5ch (News Speed+) thread “[Society] Are married people happier than singles? Marriage tends to extend average lifespan, especially for men.”
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