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A family-counseling case featured by FORZA STYLE, complete with expert commentary, became a hot topic on 5ch’s News Flash+ board. A 39-year-old daughter still living with her parents reportedly demands household chores from her mother in her 70s as a matter of course, asking things like “Isn’t dinner ready yet?” and treating her like a maid. Even when the mother told her to “get out,” the daughter wouldn’t listen — and instead doubled down. Thread opinions split between comparisons like “sons (kodo-oji, slang for grown men still living with their parents) are even worse,” predictions about whether this daughter would actually care for her mother once nursing care becomes necessary, and debates over whether adult children living at home should be contributing to living expenses.
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“Isn’t Dinner Ready Yet?” The 70-Something Mother Treated Like a Maid by Her 39-Year-Old Daughter Still Living at Home. The Daughter’s “Unbelievable Defiance” When “Get Out” Doesn’t Get Through 【Expert Advice】
Source: forzastyle.com / Original article here
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If it were a son, it'd be way worse
Exactly
Kodo-oji (grown men who never leave their parents' house) are the truly hopeless menace here
I sense malicious intent trying to divert attention from that
A "kodomabeya ojisan" (lit. "kid's-room uncle," slang for a grown man still living in his childhood bedroom) is just anyone who never leaves that room. Even if you land a job pulling in 24 million yen a year and hand your parents a million yen every month, if you're still living in that kid's room, you're a kodomabeya ojisan.
That said, the daughter does seem to have a job, so I thought maybe the mother could sell the house and move without telling her where…
But then again, at 70-something, landlords probably won't rent to her
There are nursing homes that'll take care of you until you die for an entry fee plus your pension
If she sells the house, she should be able to cover the entry fee
No, I bet she'll just pretend her mother doesn't exist, do nothing, and leave her to die by neglect
And the house turns into a hoarder dump… way too awful
If you're going to live with your parents, hand over at least 50,000 yen a month
When you're a kid, your parents provide for you for free
but that's because it's their obligation
Once you're an adult, that obligation is gone
If you're old enough to know better and still having your meals taken care of
show some filial gratitude
the amount is really just about the sentiment though
When I suggested handing over that 50,000 yen, I got yelled at — apparently a normal parent would save it and give it back to you when you get married
If they went out in drag they'd definitely get stopped and questioned by the cops lol!
That's just because your drag quality is low
Skill issue
I bet she'll end up deeply grateful to her daughter eventually
So the right answer is for both of them to smile and respect each other's personal space
That might be true if the parents raised her properly and there's some other reason she's living at home
But this case looks like a major parenting failure (and the blame probably lies largely with the parents)
so sadly, I don't think it'll turn out that way
I think it'll just stay this way until she dies
As long as there's a place to live, she'll manage somehow
On weekdays, dinner's already made by the time I get home from work so I just eat that
On days off, if I text that I'm heading out and plan to grab food alone, more often than not my dad says let's go as a family instead
We're mooching parasites, so let's at least know our place
Forget "knowing your place" — aren't the parents just way too overprotective?
Nothing but doting fools
In the end, it all comes down to your environment
I guess when it's "her ladyship" who's single, it's too real to laugh about?
There's a tradition of women and children being forgiven even when they screw up
Even single women usually have a boyfriend…
If you don't mind the age gap, there's always some nice older guy out there
That's where it's different from men
A single man is a comedy,
but a single woman is a tragedy, so it's hard to laugh about it (´・ω・`)
Background and Key Points of This Topic
The term “kodomabeya ojisan/obasan” (lit. “kid’s-room uncle/auntie”) has become an established way to mock young unmarried people who still live with their parents, but it’s easy to overlook that the source material here — a family-counseling case featured by FORZA STYLE with expert commentary — actually deals with a more specific situation: a “reversal of the parent-child power dynamic” playing out before full-blown nursing care even enters the picture. The thread split mainly over two points. One was the comparison “sons (kodo-oji) have it even worse,” versus pushback framing that as “changing the subject.” The other was speculation over whether the daughter will actually look after her mother once nursing care becomes necessary — the dominant view was that she’d simply be dumped into a care facility and that would be the end of it. Toward the end, the discussion also touched on the asymmetry whereby single men living with their parents are easy fodder for jokes, while the same situation for women tends to be taken more seriously. It’s worth keeping in mind that the original article is just a single example and doesn’t necessarily apply to every household in a similar situation.
*This article is compiled as an excerpt and summary of the 5ch (News Flash+) thread “【FORZA】”Isn’t Dinner Ready Yet?” The 70-Something Mother Treated Like a Maid by Her 39-Year-Old Daughter Still Living at Home. The “Defiance” the Daughter Unleashed When “Get Out” Didn’t Get Through.”
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