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The story
On 5ch’s “Anything Goes Live” board, a poster with a first date scheduled for the next day started a thread asking what they should watch out for. Replies poured in with concrete advice, ranging from grooming details like nails, nose hair, and arm hair, to how to pick a meeting spot, to the rule of thumb that a first date should wrap up early. Opinions on smoking, though, split right down the middle — some argued it’s attractive, others warned it’s a turn-off nowadays — and someone even suggested just asking an AI, leaving the thread without a clear consensus.
What people said
Not much point going to an izakaya if I can't drink…
We're just having lunch anyway.
apparently looking clean is what matters most.
Good luck, OP.
I bought new clothes, and I'll check my nails and nose hair like you said.
I'm also thinking I should shave the hair on my arms and fingers, just in case.
I'll be extra careful drawing my eyebrows in too, more than usual.
I really wanted to get my hair done as well, but I'm in the middle of growing it out right now, so I'll just style it to cover that up.
I've had trouble plenty of times with buildings — one of us at the wrong entrance, or on the wrong floor.
What is this, the Showa era? You can just text these days, grandpa.
True. We're planning to meet at the station, just to be safe.
Apparently it's best to end a first date early, so I'm planning to keep it to just lunch!
And while you're at the nails, watch out for finger hair and any stray stubble you missed shaving.
I always carry a handkerchief. Good point about tissues too. I'll watch out for my nails and any noticeable stray hair. I've got a good National-brand razor too, so I'll take care of my stubble.
I'm dead serious about this one.
A parting gift? We're not even coming back from a trip.
Same goes for whenever you pass a staff member.
Lol, it's not a TV shoot, where's there even a camera
Wait, do you mean I should bow at my phone's camera?
Skip the drinks and eat light.
Why would I go to the bathroom multiple times — you mean going several times in a short span?
The food should be light anyway since we're just going to a café.
At this point I'll take AI advice too! Thanks in advance!
Don't go relying on AI for this
What month do you think it is? It's autumn!
Just go grab an iced coffee at a coffee shop and talk about which mountain to go chestnut-picking on.
According to Chappy:
Pay smoothly, don't fumble with the bill.
Don't bring up heavy topics — focus on securing a promise for a next date.
Good luck!
I've actually been thinking I'd like to try smoking at some point.
Seriously, don't start smoking — you'll get addicted and have a brutal time trying to quit.
That's the one thing you should not do.
A lot of women especially find it off-putting.
My family home is old-fashioned in a lot of ways, and I personally like the Showa era and older things, so that might be influencing me.
When I watch old movies, I can't help but idolize it a bit.
Background and Key Points of This Discussion
Advice emphasizing grooming details like “nails,” “nose hair,” and “body hair,” as seen in this thread, is a standard response in 5ch relationship-advice threads, reflecting a mindset that treats a sense of cleanliness as the key measure of a first impression. Opinions on smoking split sharply between “it’s attractive” and “it’s a turn-off nowadays,” a divide that reflects declining smoking rates and shifting attitudes toward secondhand smoke, and is a topic where views tend to differ by generation. While the thread produced concrete advice on how to choose a meeting spot and the rule of thumb to end a first date early, it’s worth noting that some points that commonly come up in real first-date advice — like how to handle the bill or what to talk about — weren’t addressed here.
*This article is compiled as an excerpt and summary of the 5ch (Anything Goes Live) thread “Things to Watch Out for on a First Date.”
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