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A woman who had made clear before they started dating that “cheating is an absolute dealbreaker” got pregnant after two years together — only to discover her boyfriend was secretly married with children, a case of “faking single” status reported by Bengo4.com News. She reportedly took the matter to court and won. Reactions on 5ch were split: some said it was “still better than being tricked into raising another man’s child” (a reference to takuran/”cuckoo’s-egg” parenting), while others argued the woman was partly at fault for “not noticing in two whole years.”
Published 9/7 (Mon), 10:20
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“Cheating is an absolute dealbreaker.” Before they started dating, the woman had made that clear.
Source: news.yahoo.co.jp / Read the original article here
What people said
So true.
She's just doing to a man what men usually do to women.
Exactly right, but the thing with "cuckoo's egg" parenting is it usually never gets found out.
Somebody should make a documentary called 'The Cuckoo's Wife.'
Honestly, getting pregnant before marriage in the first place is kind of iffy too, if you ask me.
Sounds like they'd even filled out a marriage registration form, and she was doing fertility treatment — so didn't she think they were already married? It only counts as just "dating" because the form was never actually submitted.
Same here. Call it obliviousness or just being dense, but you'd think two years together would be enough to notice.
In this woman's case, it's at least her own biological child, and she can claim child support. With "cuckoo's egg" parenting, the man doesn't get to leave behind a child of his own, gets stuck raising someone else's, and on top of that has to keep paying support for it.
Even without the "faking single" angle, aren't there a lot of guys who just don't pay child support anyway?
Popular by lying to people, lol.
Can't really be reversed in the first place, can it.
Married guys with kids have that easygoing, generous vibe that makes them popular. Lifelong-bachelor middle-aged guys, on the other hand, tend to be stingy and only think about themselves, so they get zero attention.
I've heard that in the old days, parents would show up unannounced at their child's future spouse's home and ask the neighbors about their reputation before agreeing to the marriage. These days, with privacy laws, nobody would tell you anything.
This was already reported before — old news.
Probably both, honestly.
Honestly, that really depends on how the relationship is run, so it's hard to say. If you're young with lots of free time, maybe you're staying over every weekend and meeting up here and there on weekdays too. But once you're a bit older, busy with work, and living some distance apart, seeing each other once a week or once every two weeks — with staying over maybe once every few weeks — isn't strange at all.
Best to just treat this as a made-up story.
But she actually won in court, so this isn't some fabricated piece in a trashy magazine. And honestly, the fact that they were deliberately doing fertility treatment — not just an "oops" pregnancy — shows how shameless the guy was.
The woman having the affair is at fault for not checking his family register before sleeping with him. Even with minors, "I didn't know" doesn't fly — there's a duty to verify.
You'd need a power of attorney [to pull someone else's family register].
>>The woman having the affair is at fault for not checking his family register before sleeping with him.
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Do that and civil servants won't be able to cheat anymore.
Apparently that would lead to a mass wave of arrests among civil servants.
Background and Key Points of Debate
Faking single status isn’t automatically a criminal offense under current Japanese law, but if someone lies about their marital history to pursue a relationship or sexual involvement, it can be treated as a tort, making the other party eligible to claim damages — and it appears the woman’s lawsuit was argued, and won, on that basis. Commenters on the thread repeatedly compared this to “the reverse of cuckoo’s-egg parenting” (being tricked into raising another man’s biological child), but the legal situation differs: unlike in that scenario, the child born here is the woman’s own, and if paternity is legally acknowledged, she retains the right to claim child support. Some also argued she “should have checked his family register beforehand,” but as a rule, only the person themselves, their spouse, or direct blood relatives can obtain a copy of someone’s family register — a partner, as an unrelated third party, normally cannot get one on their own. This legal restriction is easy to overlook, and in practice there are only limited ways to actually verify someone’s marital history.
*This article is excerpted and summarized from the 5ch (News Express+) thread “[Faking Single] “I never thought it would happen to me…” — Her Boyfriend of Two Years Was Secretly Married With Kids, Discovered After She Got Pregnant: The Real Reason the “Victim” of Faking Single Fought Back.”
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