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The story
A post about a date with a woman he’d met on a dating app went viral on 5ch after she stepped into the bathroom and didn’t come back for over 30 minutes. The incident took place at a restaurant on the 45th floor, and thread readers were split over whether to call an ambulance or just accept he’d been ditched.
What people said
Just wait at the table.
Waiting right outside so she spots you the second she's out is just basic manners.
Do that after you get home, come on.
We were saying stuff like "guess it's time to head home," then we both went to the bathroom.
I was out in like two seconds, and now I'm stuck like this.
You left yourself wide open there.
She probably waited to see OP (that's you) go into the bathroom, then took off.
The moment you step away, she'll come out.
And just go straight home.
I stepped away for a bit, but she still didn't come out.
So she must still be in there.
Are you sure she's actually still in there?
She might have collapsed in the bathroom — shouldn't you call an ambulance?
Nah, that feels like a step too far, you know?
Aren't you going to message her? Like ask if she's okay?
The "wait for me" message came 30 minutes ago.
No, I mean after that — you've been waiting 30 minutes now, you should send something.
Couldn't send it 😔
I'm gorgeous inside and out (riffing on the phrase "handsome in looks and heart"), so it's gotta be an epically long poop.
It's a totally normal bathroom.
It's just really quiet around here.
Not blocked.
Not blocked on the dating app OR on LINE?
We only matched on the app, so that's the only place, and I'm not blocked there.
This is the 45th floor, dude.
I'd absolutely hate that.
The women's room was definitely not crowded.
All I can do is pretend I fell asleep so it looks like I never noticed how long she was in there.
What do you even mean, "pretend to be asleep"?
But I got a "wait for me" message after that.
Nah, that's rough, man.
I pretend to be asleep on the bench
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Poop Girl: "Sorry, were you waiting long?"
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Me: "Oh, I was asleep, didn't even notice."
That's the plan.
Stop saying stuff that makes no sense.
Dinner was at a cheap place.
After that we just went up to the free high-floor lookout to see the night view.
Well, no wonder she left.
Well, no wonder she left.
Background and Key Points
Man Waits 30 Minutes Outside Bathroom While Dating App Date Never Returns
Japanese dating apps like Tinder, Pairs, and Tapple have become one of the most common ways young Japanese people meet, and a “first date” arranged through them is typically a short, low-commitment dinner or coffee meeting, often at a casual, inexpensive restaurant — which is part of why posters in this thread zeroed in on the detail that the date was at a “cheap place” (150-149) rather than something matching the impressive 45th-floor night-view setting. That mismatch, small as it sounds, became one of the thread’s turning points: several posters treated it as retroactive evidence that the date was already going badly before the bathroom disappearance even happened.
The actual split in the thread was less about whether she left and more about what OP should do about it. One camp pushed a worst-case, duty-of-care reading — she could have collapsed and someone should call an ambulance or check on her — while another camp treated the vanishing as an obvious, almost comedic brush-off (the “20-meter poop” and window-escape jokes), telling OP to just accept it and stop hovering, since standing watch outside a women’s restroom door reads as alarming rather than considerate in Japan.
What the thread never really engages with is the mechanics of the app itself: a match made purely in-app, with no LINE ID exchanged, is trivially and permanently escapable — she can simply stop responding with zero social cost, no mutual contacts, no shared history, nothing forcing a real goodbye. That’s precisely the loophole posters gesture at (“she waited for you to leave your post”) without naming it directly: on these apps, disappearing is a built-in exit, not a dramatic act.
*This article is excerpted and summarized from the 5ch (Nandemo Jikkyo G) thread “The girl I met on a dating app went to take a dump and never came back.”
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