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On Fuji TV’s “Nazotore MAXXX,” aired October 15, actor Ritsuko Tanaka and young actor Kyoya Honda took on the challenge of writing a decline reply to a wedding invitation, judged by Emi Sanai, head of a manners school whose books have sold a combined 850,000 copies. Her coaching of the pair — who rarely write such replies — came across as strongly “condescending,” prompting complaints of “discomfort” on social media. On 5ch, opinions split between those who saw it as typical variety-show staging/scripting and those who saw it as backlash against manner instructors as a whole.
Manner instructor’s fierce “condescending” dressing-down of young actor on TV draws “discomfort” from some on social media
On the October 15 broadcast of “Nazotore MAXXX” (Fuji TV), a popular manner instructor coached contestants on the etiquette of replying to wedding invitations — and the content has set social media abuzz.
“In the segment, actor Ritsuko Tanaka and young actor Kyoya Honda took on the challenge of writing a decline reply on a wedding invitation. The judge was Emi Sanai, head of a manners school whose books have sold a combined 850,000 copies. Tanaka said she usually writes such replies ‘while looking things up,’ and Honda seemed unfamiliar with the task too, saying ‘I’ve only received an invitation and attended a wedding once each’” (entertainment reporter).
Source: news.yahoo.co.jp / Original article here
What people said
Way too many people lately are taking TV way too seriously.
Even if you're watching it as a joke, it still feels like crap.
Who actually benefits from demanding more than that?
They probably think it'd be boring if she went easy on them.
Yeah, that's obviously it.
What's surprising is how many people are reacting like it's real.
just publish your own made-up rules as a book and rake in cash by criticizing people.
Kind of like the mummy hunter becoming a mummy himself (an idiom for the rescuer ending up stuck in the same trap), lol.
The moment you're arrogantly forcing them on other people, you've already missed the point.
What matters is whether the recipient feels uncomfortable, and this is just a forced, contrived complaint — there's no problem at all.
If you really insist this is a manner violation, then this instructor herself is guilty of manner harassment, moral harassment, and power harassment.
but then they complain when old folks watching TV get mad too? lol
Take a hint.
It's not funny, it's just unpleasant, idiot.
Whether you add the 'o-' honorific prefix or not,
as long as it's understandable either way is fine.
All this etiquette stuff is way too nitpicky.
Though it's my fault too for not checking something that 'obvious.'
and someone told me in a trembling voice, 'Um… that kind of shouting is actually a manner violation…'
That's the 'it's disrespectful to your opponent' kind of etiquette
you often hear about in national sports (like sumo).
Or rather, they were a perfect match.
Just don't watch variety shows then.
Anyone still watching a show like this is a fool anyway, so who cares.
Background and Key Points
Backlash against “manner instructors” has been building for several years now. Online, there’s a growing trend of mocking etiquette rules with unclear justification as “mystery manners,” and this thread is an extension of that trend. Emi Sanai is the head of a manners school with a track record of 850,000 copies sold across her books, and it’s thought the show cast her as the instructor precisely because of that name recognition. Within the thread, opinions were split between those who saw the strictness as “scripted/staged for the show” and those who found it “simply unpleasant,” but whether the production intentionally called for a heavy-handed performance remains speculation within the article — neither Sanai nor the show has issued an official comment. Notably, few posts actually debated the correctness of wedding invitation reply etiquette itself; most comments stuck to judging the very existence of “manner instructors” as a profession.
*This article is excerpted and summarized from the 5ch (Geinou/Sports News+) thread “[TV] Manner instructor’s fierce “condescending” dressing-down of young actor on show draws “discomfort” from some on social media.”
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